Where I learned tons of awesome blow-job tips from top sexperts in NYC. They made it fun, enjoyable—totally opposite from high school health class—and even got a free ‘silver bullet’ vibrator out of it!

I went a bit outside of my comfort zone this Sunday night and attended ‘The Art of the Blow Job’ workshop hosted by Random Events and taught by Babeland sexperts, Lela and Amy (I believe). They were eloquent, extremely well-prepared, energetic, almost bubbly, and seemed to really enjoy their job. Wow, I thought, I wish I enjoyed giving blow-jobs as much as they enjoy giving this workshop! They gave plenty of techniques and strategies that we could take home about how to please our man more than ever. But I also took away the message that sex and a relationship also needs to be about open communication, pleasure for both parties no matter what the sex act, and making sure both people feel comfortable for sex to be great—and fun!

I’ll share some of my favs from that night and save the rest for another post:

1. Use a 1-10 scale:

When squeezing and pumping the shaft of the penis, agree on what 5 is in terms of intensity, the speed, how hard to squeeze it. Then later he can easily say, ‘Yes— 7, 8!’

2. Waterfalls technique:

Have one hand go over the head of the penis and down the shaft, and then quickly have the other hand go over the head as well, and then keep going one after the other in an endless flow. So creative and yet so simple.

3. Firestarter technique:

Picture you’re rubbing two sticks together trying to light a fire (this is probably not how you start a real fire, but anways) but do it to the penis. Can combine with the other oral techniques that I’ll explain later.

4. Tootsie roll technique:

Hold the tip/head of the penis in one hand and the shaft in the other. Twist in opposite directions.

This might all sound kind of dry and textbook, but trust me when you have two lovely ladies demonstrating on stage up front—with one wearing a strap-on no less (!)— it was quite hilarious and especially mortifying when we had to practice on our own individual bananas (covered in condom) ourselves. We also put the condoms on with our own mouths!

5. Put a condom on with your mouth:

Unwrap the condom with your fingers—not your mouth/teeth—then unravel it to check it is the right side out. You don’t want to put the condom on the penis the wrong way and then flip it around—then it’s already tainted. So then you put the condom tip in your mouth, sucking it flat with your lips so there are no air bubbles and then put on over his penis and push it down with your mouth, and then the rest of the way with your hand. Whew.

More soon!