Women are demonized for being sexual and unpristine, again…

So there were some rumors flying around last month about Zhang Ziyi, the popular Chinese actress from Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, allegedly sleeping with Chinese Communist party official, Bo Xilai— who was also involved with allegations of murder— and getting paid $15M for it. So the rumor goes, first she supposedly slept with Xu Ming (but why?), Bo’s financier, and then was pimped onto Bo with a higher markup rate. It all seems to make no rational sense and Zhang Ziyi has filed a lawsuit for defamation: “Whatever the cost, I will seek legal recourse and pursue this matter to the very end.” She also said she was hurt that her fans hadn’t rejected the reports out of hand.

One the one hand it infuriated me that judging women’s sex lives are still considered OK to be part of public debate. Meanwhile, public men like Dominique Strauss-Kahn is not only sleeping around but connected to heading prostitution rings and still maintain a high status (tho his wife recently leaving him was so satisfying) and he did lose his shot at becoming President of France after charges of raping a hotel maid.

If Zhang Ziyi gets her rocks off by sleeping with gross older men for money she should not be judged for that. She has plenty of money and so it’s not really about the money. I think it would be more of an issue of why does sleeping with ‘gross older men with no integrity’ gets her off than an issue of accepting money for sex. Some adult women do get turned on or feel powerful by pleasuring men—whether it’s massages or strip/pole dancing. Meanwhile it’s always the female sex worker that is demonized instead of the johns (men paying for sex) anyways. Did you know most ‘prostitutes’ enter the life at 12-14 years old on average? But I digress.

Point being that adult females are constantly judged by having or enjoying sex or having power around sex. Meanwhile that’s why movies like ‘Magic Mike’ have women going crazy because we are so rarely allowed to be lustful and show our desires that just showing us some naked abs are enough to set most women off. Let’s have the next one be written by a woman leading an open sexual lifestyle and then see where it goes..