Where I reveal the secrets of how to tell if a guy truly loves you or is just not that into you, from the writers of Sex and the City and the best-selling book, He’s Just Not That Into You. Continue reading →
1. He was abused as a child OR his previous partner hurt him.
Neither a bad childhood nor an ex causes a man to become an abuser. Although the former can contribute to making a man who is already abusive even more dangerous. However, a non-abusive man doesn’t use his past as an excuse to mistreat you. And starting to feel sorry for your partner for his abuse can be a trap, to make you feel guilty for standing up to his abuse and to play on your compassion to avoid dealing with his problem. Continue reading →
What does it mean to love somebody? Why do you love them and in the end does it really matter?
Sometimes I feel that I like someone simply because they like me, and almost more than me liking them. You know? Like yeah, I think they’re cool and all, but what really gets me is the fact that they like me so much. Weird? Maybe. I think that may be true for a lot of women though.
A lot of us may not have gotten enough love when we were younger or was not really shown love outwardly at least and so there is that missing void there. That hole stays within us for a long, long time even into adulthood.
We think we are strong, independent-minded thinkers, which we are but we are still walking around with these voids and hurts from when we were little. Continue reading →
Do young, single Chinese women really feel the pressure to marry? Or are many of them subtly saying no to the sexist pressures of marrying just because?
Recently, there was an online article in The Raw Story about the pressures of single women in China to marry by the age of 27. Apparently the majority of men feel if you’re over 30 then you’re too old. “Men don’t want a woman over 30. It’s important for them that she’s still pretty,” says a 26 year-old woman who is trying out a singles club—Garden of Joy (really?)— where they help pair you up with activities such as billiards or speed dating.
However, explains Wu Di, a sociologist who has just published a book on the subject, “Traditionally the Chinese say one should ‘make do’ when marrying. Marriage has never been synonymous with happiness. The new generation of women don’t want to ‘make do’. Many live quite well alone and don’t see the point in lowering their standard or life in order to marry.” Continue reading →
Where I deliberate the consequences of staying close with one’s ex and is it worth the trouble?
After breaking up with one’s ex should you have an absolutely clean break? Should you not even talk to the person for 3 months as many people recommend? And then depending on if you’re the person who initiated the break-up should you be even more careful to not hurt the person more and maintain distant contact with the other person even though they may want more? Continue reading →