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Can Men And Women Be Friends?

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Where I talk about the relationships between men and women and how we figure out what we want the relationship to look like and how to build it..

 

This weekend I’m at a counseling workshop with a lot of Asians. It’s been going quite well, especially since I feel I’m just starting to get in the groove today. One big thing we’ve been talking about is closeness with others and what kind of a relationship would we ideally want with someone if we could really have it how we wanted?
Well, first of all, what does society offer as options? Essentially, we are given the messages that we can either be friendly or desperately and urgently sexual. Not a lot of options. Nor a range. Just two boxes. For all of humankind. Not very rational either.
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Can You Tell You’re Worth It?

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Where I remember my childhood hurts and decide I will not listen to them anymore because I am worth it. Can you tell you’re worth it?

 

I first learned at the Prepare IMPACT women’s self-defense workshop, I attended 3 years ago that most women, not only are scared walking home at nights, but also that we have an extremely hard time fighting in our own defense, whereas we will fight to the death protecting loved ones. We will go above and beyond to defend those we love but we can’t muster up half that energy on our own behalf. What gives?
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Sexist (and racist) practice in Olympic Games

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Where I point out sexist and racist policies of sports that are excluding women—intentionally or not— outside of mainstream Western culture.. but they are slowly changing.

 

Sexism likes to follow us everywhere, even and especially into the realm of sports— and even what we wear while we play sports… The Olympics have begun!

 

Some quick highlights of the inspiring female athletes:

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It’s all in your head, which is a good thing

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Where I ponder life lessons gleaned from my stand-up paddling race today..

 

How a stand-up paddling race is like real life:

You can’t let the beginning moment affect everything else. 

Sometimes you fall off your board right at the very start. You curse yourself, but all you can do is just get back on and start paddling— nerves and all.

 

Sometimes you need to ‘give in’ in spite of your pride.

One woman passed me sitting on her board. Usually I’m very stubborn and will want to keep paddling standing, even with a very strong headwind. But then I thought what my coach would say and thought he would tell me to go on my knees if I needed to. So I gave in. That was the right call, especially given the board I was on.

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Just paddle like a woman possessed

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Some trending news and thoughts about how I can paddle like a ‘possessed’ woman during my upcoming 7-miler race…

 

Today I was thinking I could talk about the passing of Sally Ride yesterday, the first U.S. woman to go to outer space in 1983.

 

I also thought about writing about the 17 year-old girl who originally was facing 180 days in jail for tweeting the names of the two boys who sexually assaulted her. They now have withdrawn their charges for contempt.

 

In entertainment news, Call the Midwife is another huge hit British show (while we wait for Downton Abbey to return, sigh) about a team of bicycle-riding midwives in 1950s London.
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