So I have been thinking alot about this concept lately: This idea of being indecisive, waivering, doubting ourselves, not being able to trust ourselves, trusting our gut, instinct, listening to our hearts. All of it.
I don't know about you, but this is DEFINITELY something I struggle with a lot of the time. Lately with more major life decisions, I am starting to see what a hard time I have with trusting my own thinking, figuring out what that is. What do I really WANT??
I've also been noticing this indecisive pattern in others. And as you may have noticed as well, it's much easier to notice things in others than ourselves. Or when I see it on others, I can see it much more clearly and notice other things as well.
For example, my new hypothesis for when you feel unsure about something is ---- NO. What do I mean?
If you feel uncertain about moving into a new apartment --- you checked it out, there's X and Y and C you're considering but it doesn't feel completely right. Then the answer is simply NO.
If you're considering getting married to someone but you have a couple slight hesitancies at the very back of your brain, so small you can probably block it out, then the answer is still--- NO.
If you feel uncertain about moving into a new apartment --- you checked it out, there's X and Y and C you're considering but it doesn't feel completely right. Then the answer is simply NO.
If you're considering getting married to someone but you have a couple slight hesitancies at the very back of your brain, so small you can probably block it out, then the answer is still--- NO.
We're not talking noodles or rice on the menu here. (Although I can certainly feel indecisive about menu items as well.)
I'm talking about decisions that have a major impact on your happiness or lack of.
I confess I feel pretty strongly about this.
I'm not saying it's easy to do. I know I certainly get petrified either way. Scared to say YES and dive into an unknown situation that may or may not pan out. And scared to say NO and throw away a potentially great or right situation.
But for those of us who have a strong indecisiveness pattern, it can be really useful to use this policy when we are feeling uncertain about a situation.
I DON'T KNOW = NO
In my next post I'll talk about why I chose this policy, and my reasoning behind it.
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