I could look back when I wanted and see how far I've come--- many of those insecurities having disappeared. Or choose not to look back on them, but simply to keep my journal collection as memorabilia.
My journal was truly my rock during the painful breakup times. Yes, I would share with girlfriends and cry with them. Yes, I would share and cry with my counseling community. And--- there was still nothing quite like writing and writing and writing away in my journal, when tears would rush up and hover behind my eyes, and I'd keep writing.
When I wrote, as would often happen, I might discover new insights about myself, strengths or weaknesses that I otherwise would not have uncovered if I had not taken the time to write out my thoughts and feelings, one by one, and sift through each individual question, and confusion or certainty.
Who is the person we write to when we journal? Who knows. It doesn't matter really, as long as you feel free to write whatever comes thru your hand...
Here are a couple journaling prompts for breakups--- as promised! And if you like these, you might want to consider DAILY DABBLES, to help create your own sacred daily, journaling practice!
JOURNALING PROMPTS FOR BREAKUPS:
- Write a letter to the ex --- all the things you'd like to say you never said. It's not meant to be sent, but for you to write and then burn if you like.
- Where does it hurt? In your body can you describe where? How does it feel?
- Where do you feel you might be more reserved, cautious, guarded, skeptical right now after your breakup?
- What do you feel most upset about with the breakup?